Good for you Fatima786! Good luck. I’m sure it’ll still happen sometimes (like it does for everyone – ESPECIALLY when we’re tired!), but maybe less and less as time goes on and you start trying some of the other tricks people have suggested, right?
Krista, have you noticed that your children would pinch you or other children when they are upset?
My daughter would not say anything when she was frustrated (a child taking her toy for example). For the last month, her reaction is to pinch the person she’s unhappy with (me or another child). She stares and will pinch for a long time, expecting a reaction I think.
I use 1,2,3 method and in extreme case, she gets a tap on the hand. I’ve never pinched her.
Thanks!
My youngest may have pinched one of the others once or twice, but no, they never went around pinching each other as a common behavioral problem.
well, i dont have a book to read, or any thing like that. just the book of life. it starts from a new born. as long as you respond in a timely manner, not more than a few minutes to their distress calls, and provide them with what they need, you wont have too many problems with disipline. this includes holding, cuddling, etc. what ever their need. i tell people, we as adults dont like to be alone, why would a baby. i dont believe a child under the age of 6 or 7 needs to spanked, and ususally not even severely punished…(unless they are like my youngest was when he was 3-4)lol then and now, i believe he had a mild form of autism. just it was not as recognized then as it is now… for him, when he had trouble controlling his emotions, i would bring him to his room, or another designated spot, and talk to him calmly and tell him he needed to stay here until he was able to get himself under control. then he could come back by the rest of the family… in this way, he learned to calm himself, instead of depending on me to do it for him… he is now 20 years old, and in the air force. he is stationed in germany, and works on their secure computer networks… i just always let my 3 boys know when they reached the age of wanting to talk back or raise their voices to me. i let them know very firmly, this was an unaceptable behavoir. and the that they would be in trouble to treat me this way. in return, i always treated them with the utmost respect, and loving attention. good l
not that life was perfect, it never is, but to this day, 23 22 20, 3 boys, have never raised their voice, or talked to me in a desrespectful way. but i never did that to them either. love your babies, they are grown too fast…
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you know, you are right. your child will mimic you. arent you proud to know you are doing such an awsome job that he wants to love his brother as much and you love him…i do understand though, it is hard. i just went through all that…5 4 2 yr olds…i would simply try to explain that they had to gentle with the baby, and hold their hand and show them how to love the baby softly. usually on their foot as to deter germs when they are small…(i can be a bit anal about newborns and infants.lol) but if you continue to show him, and then remind him when he does go to the baby, he will learn how to love in a softer way.also, you could get a stuffed animal, show him how to hold and love a baby in a loving and tender manner…he will copy you then of course too…how wonderful to have such a loving 3 yr old…congrats 
good luck. im sure he will be fine with the new way of loving…