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A book that changed my life, and made it possible for me to have 6 children is To Train Up A Child. It will show you how to discipline your child as well as train your child.
To Train Up A Child
From successful parents, learn how to train up your children rather than discipline them up. With humor and real-life examples this book shows you how to train your children before the need to discipline arises. Be done with corrective discipline; make them allies rather than adversaries. The stress will be gone and your obedient children will praise you and bring joy and peace into your home. Thousands have testified to the amazing results of these profoundly simple techniques. This book is not about discipline, nor problem children. The emphasis is on the training of a child before the need to discipline arises. It is apparent that, though they expect obedience, most parents never attempt to train their child to obey. They wait until his behavior becomes unbearable and then explode. With proper training, discipline can be reduced to 5% of what many now practice. As you come to understand the difference between training and discipline, you will have a renewed vision for your family?no more raised voices, no contention, no bad attitudes, fewer spankings, a cheerful atmosphere in the home, and total obedience from your children. Any parent with an emotional maturity level higher than the average thirteen-year-old can, with a proper vision and knowledge of the technique, have happy obedient children. This is not a theory; it is a practical reality that has been successfully applied many times over.
Here is a link to see the book.
http://stores.intellbaby.com/-strse-46/To-Train-Up-A/Detail.bok
That sounds like a really good book and I believe I saw that one at my library. Thank you for sharing.
I like the “Love and Logic” books and “Magic 1,2,3” books.
Angie
I used 1,2,3 Magic with my yds and a book called try and make me. They were both very good.
thanks for the ideas…
thanks to all. I’ll check these books
Thanks for sharing!! So far I have looked further into To Train Up A Child and it sounds really good
I have always loved the Supernanny TV show. Through it I learned that it’s usually the parents that are doing things wrong and not the kids. So with my son, we use her techniques and they work so well! Here is the website. http://www.supernanny.com/
I also wanted to say that “Love and Logic” series has books specifically geared towards age 6 & younger and teenagers. They have conferences all over the country and we are going to a seminar held by the authors this weekend. They also have a podcast.
Both “Love & Logic” and “Magic 1,2,3” are also used by teachers at school.
I will say that Magic 1,2,3 really has to be used properly. You count 1,2,3 and if the behavior hasn’t changed, they get a consequence. My Mom counted when I was a kid, and I hated it. You have to always be consistent- no 2&1/2, or counting over 3.
Angie
2 books I’ve come across viz., :
" Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours"
and
“Discipline with Love” are good ones.
I’ll have to check a lot of those out!
A comment on the 1,2,3 thing. I haven’t read the book, but I observe many parents using it successfully with their kids. So I tried it with my 3 year old. His response?
“No, Mommy, count to 100!”
“I’m not going to count to 100!”
“It’s okay, Mommy. I’ll help you!”
:yes: thanks for sharing!!
That’s hilarious maybe not effective but sure is funny! lol
I highly recommend Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline by Barbara Coloroso. It helps parents learn how to empower and influence their children instead of trying to control them - teach them how to think, not just what to think.
I’d be interested if anyone here does use the “To Tain Up A Child” method. I am reading the book and would love input from others practicing this. Thanks.
Autumn
Hi Krista,
I do like the book. Actually I like it a lot! It says so many wonderful/truthful things. But the hardest part for me and my husband is using something to spank with, like the spatula or a stick. And we hate that we’d have to do it so frequently too. And why on the arm or leg??? Couldn’t we just use their bare bottom? We don’t have bad kids, it’s just we want them to listen to us everytime we tell them to do something. Is there anyway to apply their method, but with-in our comfort zone? Have you ever done a variation of their method? Thanks a million!
Autumn
The reason we use the arm or the leg is so that when obedience is lacking we can quickly correct it with a quick sting to either area. If we want to spank on the bottom it is more time consuming and not delivered as quickly. When my children know they are getting it on the bottom they tend to fight and not submit to the consequence of their actions. I have done both, however. I find that the swat to the arm or leg works well for simple corrections. For more serious issues, the bottom is the best place.Certainly you can adapt the methods to something you are comfortable with. I often use a pinch on the back of the arm as well. The spank on the arm or leg is not intended to make them cry, although they sometimes will. It is just to get their attention that there is a higher power to be obeyed, which is you, and when you aren’t obeyed it results in a sting of some sort or another.
Remember, you are training them to obey you. It doesn’t mean that they are bad because you have to give them a swat, it means that they have been trained not to obey you and you are now regaining the control.
For example, my son does not answer me when I call his name on the first call. As a matter of fact, I often have to go and find him. My other children were trained to answer and will respond immediately. The other day when I called him he did not answer me. I went and found him and either pinched him or gave him a swat on the arm and told him very calmly that he is expected to answer me the first time I call him. I was not mad, he was not mad, it is just an easy way of making a point.
When my nephew came to my house, he was under 2 years old, he kept touching my stereo and DVD player. I sat next to him and told him “No, don’t touch.” When he touched it again I picked up his hand by the skin on the top, pinching it and said, “No, don’t touch.” This continued about 15 times before he realized that if and when he touched it, he would feel an unpleasant sting that made it not worth touching. His parents did not use these methods with him so it took him awhile to get it.
You can also use time-outs if you so choose, although you have to be consistent 100% of the time. I have found the pinch or swat to get my children’s full attention immediately. A word of advice, if you are uncomfortable with a method, adapt it to suit you.
Hope that helps.
Krista
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