Lately I have been treading an uncomfortable balance. With my older son (age 7), I have been very much aware of my school district pushing kids beyond their developmental limits. I have been worried about homework loads which apparently become overwhelming by 5th or 6th grade. Also recently Dr Phil had a recent segment “Teens under Pressure” which was prompted by some teen suicide contagions going on here in the USA. There is a suicide contagion going on just 20 minutes from my home. Then there is this recent documentary “Race to Nowhere” calling for a change in our education system and society in order to reduce childhood stressors. I only saw the trailer for this documentary. Due to all of the above, I’ve been very concerned with restoring balance in my son’s life. We were noticing some signs of stress and have made some changes to improve the quality of his life. I got his homework load reduced, traded his competitive soccer league for a non-competitive baseball league, enrolled him in a yoga class, reduced TV time, etc. Overall I’m trying to just slow down the pressure for him to rush and catch up with his peers. He is a bit behind due to a learning disability and gross motor issues.
Anyway somehow these efforts seem to contradict the early learning that I do with my daughter. I believe childhood is important and I worry that our children are too rushed. But I don’t feel like I’m rushing her. She is a joyful learner and I spend very little time formally teaching her. I worry that parents are too competitive and that we fuel the insanity that is depriving children of a balanced joyful childhood. Yet my daughter does have a balanced lifestyle. I worry that soon, due to escalated expectations, 3 yr olds will be classified as learning disabled if they aren’t able to read. Is anyone else feeling like an imposture? Like I wear one face when discussing my son, and a different one for my daughter. I recently made a joke on a “stop the homework” website that soon developmental expectations will become so unrealistic that there might be a product called “Your Baby Can Read in the Womb.” Is anyone else feeling this uncomfortable balance?
Lori