Dear All,
Please find below several excellent resources on how to teach your children emotional intelligience and communicating with children:
The first link is an excellent and classic work by the late child psychologist, Dr. Haim Ginott; followed by the additional work by two of his students, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish:
http://www.betweenparentandchild.com/
http://www.fabermazlish.com/
And Dr. Ginott’s work is the basis of world-renowned marital/family researcher Dr. John Gottman for his books entitled Raising an Emotionally Intelligient Child, and What Am I Feeling (an abridged version).
http://gottmancatalog.orderport.net/1450/listsubcat.asp?sc=254
Nicely illustrated by Aliki, written for children:
Feelings
http://www.amazon.com/Feelings-Aliki/dp/068803831X/ref=ed_oe_h
Another favorite book of mine on communicating with children is by the renowned psycho-linguist, Dr. Suzette Haden Elgin, in which she explains how to teach children the “taking turns” in conversation with the metaphor of traffic. Very nice work.
The Gentle Art of Communicating with Kids: From Toddlers to Teens
http://www.amazon.com/Gentle-Art-Communicating-Kids/dp/0471039969/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1232814500&sr=1-1
And for those who are have trouble find the right words, such as myself, I recommend the following books:
Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility (Paperback) by Chick Moorman
http://www.amazon.com/Parent-Talk-Self-Esteem-Encourages-Responsibility/dp/0743236246/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1232814312&sr=1-2
How to Say It To Your Kids, by Dr. Paul Coleman
http://www.amazon.com/How-Your-Kids-Paul-Coleman/dp/0735201773
And a book for teaching children (4 - 7 years) on how to speak politely is:
Words Are Not For Hurting
http://www.amazon.com/Words-Hurting-Ages-Best-Behavior/dp/1575421569/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1232814728&sr=1-1
Happy Communicating!,
Ayesha 