Hi all,
Some of you might have seen this post of mine in other forum but would like to share it here.
I think most of us are have the problem of child running away when we start to flash the random cards (red dots) to them.
I am having the same issue too. So, after attending the SM parenting course, this is the message that I get; In SM, we have to do 4 cycles of 65 days program. For child younger than 3 yrs old, you can only follow the 65 days programme up to 58 days as after 58 days, you need the respond from the child but the child is unable to give feedback, so, we can’t proceed from 59 days to 65 days for child below 3 yrs old.
1st and 2nd cycle is to use the Random cards (Red dots cards) and the 3rd and 4th cycles, we can use the variety dots cards. So, some of the parents are also asking what if my child runs away when we flash the random cards? The message that I get is that that’s why they encourage having 4 cycles. The child might miss something in the 1st cycle but she might be able to pick up something on the other cycles.
Other way to attract the child to look at the random cards is that we have to identify what are the things that the child likes. Example, if the child likes to look at apples and oranges, we should flash an apple category of flash cards and then followed by the random cards. With that, we might be able to get them to see more random cards. For me, I personally feel that after the random cards, we can also flash the orange category flash cards because if we stop at the random cards on day 1, then the child might not want to look at random cards on day 2 as they know that there is nothing interesting after the random cards. So, I feel that with the follow up of the orange category cards, the child will look forward to see the orange cards when they are looking at the random cards.
Questions being ask in SM home practice session:
- What if after seeing 2 random flash cards and my child run away? Should I continue to flash until 10?
- Yes, please continue to read it out although your child is not looking at it but they might be listening to you and of cause it’s provided that the child is still inside the room. LOL.
- Can I insert other interesting picture between random cards？Example, I insert a dog picture between random dot card 2 and random dot card 3 to make him stare at the cards?
- No, when flashing the random cards, it has to be all 10 random cards being flashed at 1 go. We are not allowed to add in photos or pictures in between.
- If my child likes to look at the random cards, Can I use the random cards for 4 cycles?
- Yes, you can use the Random cards for 4 cycles if the child likes it.
- If I am travelling, can I stop teaching my child the 65 day programme?
- Yes, you can stop for few days but let’s say if you stop for 2 weeks, then you have to start all over again even though you have reached the 50 or 60 days of the programme.
- How long should I take a break before I move to the 2nd cycle?
- You can rest 2 weeks to 1 month before you start the 2nd cycle.
- How many times in a day do we need to flash the random cards to the child?
- Once is enough. But if you have the time and your child likes it, you can do more than once in a day.
A mother asked if her son doesn’t look at the random cards and he is running around. Should I take the cards to chase after him?By doing so, you are forcing the child to see it. This will not be effective as the child is not willing to see it.
That’s all for my sharing now. Hope to hear some ideas and sharings from all.
cheers,
verolpj
