Reinforcing Individuality through positive suggestion

I read the following parraghaph today and I had to share with you as I think it adds valuable knowledge about the use of Emotional Intelligence, Affirmations and Suggestion which we have been talking at the forum recently, here it goes:

The uses of Quantum Speend reading.

Four pillars of the power of Suggestion

Suggestion:
You have wonderful ability
Power:
Relates to innate ability

S: you are fine just as you are now
p: relates to issues of self-worth

s: It’s OK not to be the same as everyone else. You have your own way of doing things.
p: relates to individuality

s: The answers all lie within you
p: relates to the power of creative thinking

2 important points here:

Get out of the mold you have been in thus far and return to you primal, energetic self

Evoke the next new ability

pg24 “If this way of thinking takes root in small children, there is no more need for them to be competitive. It becomes all right to live without always comparing themselves to others. I believe that these children will be able to perceive the essence of any situation and know what it is they really want to do, and also waht needs to be done in any given situation. I believe this type of education is incredibly important”.— Yumiko Tobitani.

source

Quantum Speen Reading, awakening of your child’s mind
by, Yumiko Tobitani ( top teacher at the Shichida Child Academy and writer)
you can buy it in amazon.com

Hope this helps.

Gloria

ps:opss I guess I have to add new lines to my affirmations ppt which by the way I posted already for you all to see.

On the same note:

Emotional Intelligence:
An Essential Component of Education
By Leah Davies, M.Ed.

Why do people with high Intelligence Quotients (IQs) sometimes fail and those of modest IQs often do surprisingly well? In his book Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman concludes that our view of human intelligence is far too narrow.* He stresses that a high score on an IQ test does not guarantee future success or determine a child’s ability to be self-disciplined, motivated, or display enthusiasm for life. He postulated that in recent years we have experienced a degeneration of “emotional literacy” across racial and class boundaries, and that the results have been an increase in cynicism, social pathology, violence, and suicide. Goleman believes that society has overemphasized IQ to the neglect of emotional skills such as empathy, responsibility, persistence, impulse control, and caring. However, he stated these attributes can be taught.

According to Goleman, childhood is “a special window of opportunity for shaping children’s emotional habits.” We must help children recognize and understand their emotions and the emotions of others. If children learn to persevere and accept mistakes as a natural part of learning, they will be better able to control themselves and handle their frustrations in positive ways. Since children need emotional training to grow into productive, satisfied adults, he urges educators and parents to integrate their emotional and rational minds which are two basically different ways of knowing. Goleman states that promoting EQ (emotional intelligence) in children is vital to the safety and civility in our society.

How can we fulfill our responsibility to assist children in becoming emotionally literate?

Increase SELF-AWARENESS by using materials that help children identify their feelings, build a feelings vocabulary, and recognize links between feelings, thoughts, and actions. Help them assess their strengths and weaknesses and thus develop a realistic view of themselves.

Teach students to MANAGE THEIR EMOTIONS. It is normal to have mood swings, but children need to know that they have the power to cope with negative feelings in constructive ways. They can respond to put-downs and adverse situations by using “self-talk.” For example, “Something bad must have happened to Tommy today because he doesn’t usually say mean things,” instead of thinking, “I hate Tommy and I’m never going to play with him again.” Other methods of dealing with negative emotions are to write down your feelings, count slowly, breathe deeply, love a pet, tell someone what happened, sing, read, or draw.

Call attention to NORMS FOR ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR in our society and help children see themselves as contributing members. Increase their social interaction skills by stressing the importance of empathy. Teach them to acknowledge and appreciate differences in others’ feelings and perspectives.

Teach them to CONTROL THEIR NEGATIVE IMPULSES through self-regulation. Help students think about their feelings and behavior and evaluate their choices before acting. Provide opportunities for them to delay gratification and to practice using refusal skills when appropriate. Emphasize that the choices they make today will determine the kind of future they will have.

Help children DEVELOP LISTENING AND COMMUNICATION SKILLS. Increase children’s awareness of nonverbal communication including tone of voice, gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact. Train them to be good listeners and to express their ideas and emotions clearly and effectively. Teach problem solving, stress management, and negotiation skills. Help children learn to be assertive rather than aggressive or passive.

Challenge children to MOTIVATE THEMSELVES, set clear goals, and develop a hopeful, optimistic attitude. Encourage self-confidence, zeal, patience, and require students to take responsibility for their actions.

INVOLVE PARENTS as much as possible, so that they will be encouraged to model emotionally healthy behavior in the home.

Since the children are looking to you for guidance on how people in our society live, NURTURE YOUR OWN EQ. Strive to be empathic, self-disciplined, enthusiastic, tolerant, and compassionate.

*Goleman, Daniel. (1995), Emotional Intelligence, New York: Bantam Books.

Dear GloriaD,

These are nice references. It is along the lines of a thread I began with books on how to teach children emotional intelligence:

http://forum.brillkids.com/teaching-your-child-other-topics/teaching-children-emotional-intelligence-and-communicating-with-children/

  • Ayesha :slight_smile:

Dear GloriaD,

Have you read the whole book or read some of it from other online source? Since I am looking for people who love Tobitani Sensei’s work and share more with each other.

Thanks

stephen

This is interesting and helpful info.

can you give the link to buy the book ===

Quantum Speen Reading, awakening of your child’s mind
by, Yumiko Tobitani

thanks, Gloriaa, for taking your time to share that with us, so very valuable
i can only wholeheartedly agree on the great importance of raising emotionally mature children, when they learn these important principles when they are young, they’ll grow up to be much happier teens & adults ( & your life, as a parent, definitely will be MUCH easier! ha!)
the opposite is true - if you don’t train your children, teach them emotional maturity, they’ll grow up plagued by comparing & lack of confidence
i beleive it’s just as much if not more important than flashcards & mathdots to build EQ in our children from as early age as possible!