Thank you KL for stopping by and for all your suggestions. I am going to by the vitamin D3 right now. It is not available in my country . 
I will have to do more reading on the other things.
Krista, that is it! How can I be without my mom! She is my best friend. I can´t believe this is happening to us.
Two weeks ago I couldn´t stop crying then I decided that I have to stop thinking about myself (thing like what would I do without her) and instead think of what we can do with it and how to help her.
The hardest thing is that it is only me who she believes. And I am not a doctor! I have to go with my instincts and choose alternatives that are the best considering her health complications.
She has her check ups in two weeks. What I know and scares me is that if the results are not better she will not continue with any alternative treatment.
It is also very hard to make my dad to think positively. I am trying to explain to him why she reacts the way she does. We don´t have much time to talk alone since he is with her all the time ( he is retired). Working therapy would be good for him so from next week he will work with my husband while I am there with my mom.
Thank you for your prays.
I recommend the “Cancer Survivor’s Guide” book http://www.pcrm.org/shop/byNealBarnard/cancer-survivors-guide
You can download the PDF for free from this page or order the hardcopy book from them or another store (like Amazon).
You might want to research the macrobiotic diet. They also teach what Krista G said above, that “sugar feeds cancer” among other principles.
The Kushi Institute ( http://www.kushiinstitute.org/ ) offers week long programs “Way to Health” that introduce people to the macrobiotic diet and way of living.
Most of the people who attend do so in pairs of a person with cancer and their support person (e.g., partner, relative, friend). You can also find macrobiotic counselors around the world to consult with (though they are not cheap generally).
The Kushi Institute has a page on cancer and macrobiotics: http://www.kushiinstitute.org/html/cancer___diet.html
They do acknowledge that the older macrobiotic books used too much salt/sodium, so if you follow recipes in older books, be sure to reduce the amount of salt/soy sauce that is called for. My understanding is that their current recommendations for cancer include a diet containing no oil or sugar and very little salt.
They also recommend chewing foods thoroughly (until it turns to liquid in the mouth) before swallowing it. Some people set a timer for 30-60 seconds for every bite. They believe this allows you to absorb more of the nutrients from every bite so that you can eat less food, and that eating less food requires less energy so that the body can use the “saved” energy for healing instead. One of their teachers is a cancer survivor that swears by this technique.
They also recommend a bit of light exercise everyday (a routine of simple stretches that gets the blood flowing to all parts of the body).
I recommend a lightly cooked “green” soup every day. This can be made pretty easily using a blender. Cook 2-4 cups of a green vegetable (e.g., kale, broccoli, watercress, arugula) in a little bit of water (1-2 cups) with vegetable broth powder and a tablespoon or two of raw cashews for about 10-15 minutes (depending on the vegetable). Then blend it in the blender (using very little of the stock initially and then diluting with the stock to the desired consistency) and season to taste (with a dash of white vinegar and pepper). It’s an easy way to get the nutrients of leafy green vegetables without having to spend so much time chewing. The cashews give a creamy mouth feel to the soup. You’ll want a good tasting stock powder. I like Seitenbacher. An immersion blender will not be able to grind the cashews into a cream (it should not be gritty tasting). You’ll need a good quality blender to do the job.
Best wishes.
I will be adding links here which I find usefull.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3660246/
elaida thank you. Itis too late here to read them now. I will look at it tomorrow.
One thing I forgot to mention until I saw Krista’s post - physical is only half of it - the other very important half is MENTAL. Do not underestimate the importance of healing the mind. The physical symptoms are actually just a manifestation of issues in the mind, and a lot of it can be subconscious.
On that, I would recommend 2 things:
- Read “Dying To Be Me” by Anita Moorjani:
http://www.amazon.com/Dying-To-Be-Me-Journey/dp/1401937535/
It’s a New York Times bestseller and definitely one of the best books I’ve ever read. I would recommend anyone and everyone read this, because despite the title and nature of the topic, it’s actually much more to do with living than dying.
Here’s a Youtube video I found of her (haven’t seen it yet, but she’ll probably cover some of the basic things about her story):
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tjLouLHH-_I
(There are also subtitles in a few different languages.)
- EFT (emotional freedom technique) which others have already mentioned above. Plenty of Youtube videos.
Above-all, everyone in the family would do very well to drop the fear that comes with this situation. I know i’ts easier said than done, but books like Dying To Be Me would help.
Lelask, I have nothing really to add. Just want you to know that my heart goes out to you and I will be praying for you and you mom.
I have a good inspirational story for you. You have to see it and hopefully it’ll benefit your mom:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=umnbB9QKr2Y
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZVSosX4SmI
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2iPurl324Q
My prayers with your mom
Reňa, I am sorry! As I wrote to you personally - you are my friend and you know that my husband had malignant tumor as well :-(. But I was NOT definitely in your shoes because we were VERY lucky and one operation solved everything. But I definitely agree that mental health is a big part of physical health and physical problems show psychical ones. I recommend to add treatment of soul and mind of your mum as well. I go to kinesiology treatment myself and I would recommend it!
I pray for your mum to recover and for you to manage everything!
Thank you for your support.
There are better days and worse days. When she feels worse I really can´t stop crying. I am exhausted. There is no many alternative things we can try My mom can´t eat. Last week there were 2 days when she didn´t eat anything at all.
She hates the smell of food or drinks. All that smell makes her sick. Even the gas while preparing food makes her sick. Today we had to leave after 10 minutes being there because she could smell the ice cream my daughter ate 30 min before.It was very hard to see that she is loosing interest in her grandchildren. My daughter was her first grandchild and they almost spent every day together. Their relationship was so strong and my mom would do anything for her, they could play together for hours. It is so hard to see that they can´t spend time together.
My mom doesn´t want to fight the cancer. I don´t understand. She has loving, supportive family We would do anything for her but she keeps saying she has lived enough.
She doesn´t want to talk about it.
How can I be without her? How can she not want to fight? This is very hard for me. How come she doesn´t want to live?
She won´t read any books or articles related to cancer, she won´t listen to relaxing music. She won´t do anything that could possibly change her mind.
I am so sorry for you. I cannot even imagine having to endure this. I don’t know how to get her to have a will to fight this battle.
Lelask,
I am so sorry to hear about that and I am keeping you and your mom in my thoughts. It is very difficult. I lost my dad to cancer, when I was very young, and he was just 37 yo.
I thought to mention something that might help you to relate to how your mom feel, and consequently may be you will be able to find an approach which can help to encourage her. There is no universal solution though…
Fear of cancer can be debilitating, finding out about cancer can be such a shock, that some people become simply frozen with it… They are afraid to try fighting it for the fear that it would not work out. Understanding this, can help to relate to your mom, showing her that you know how she might feel and that it is OK, and she does not need to be strong, it is ok to be weak. It can help her to relax and be able to try fighting with renewed determination.
I just wanted to share this from personal observation and experience.
My thoughts are with you and I really really hope she would feel better and tings would turn for the better for all of you!
I’m so sorry to hear about this, lelask. My prayers are with your family. If you believe in alternate medicine, please check out http://www.ayurveda-cancer.org/
I am very sorry to hear about your mother’s cancer. It is difficult to know what to say to make you feel better. I am very aware of the emotions that you are experiencing because I have recently lost my father to colon cancer. I was not able to accept the possibility that my father would not recover and wish that I had not avoided meaningful conversations. There are so many things that I wish I had done differently.
My biggest regret is not saying all that I wanted to say. I hope that your mother makes a full recovery and send you my best wishes. Please tell your mother what she means to you, that you love her.
Chris.
That is very good advice, Chris.
Hi Lelask,
My heart goes out to you in this season of great testing. I lost my dad a few years ago, and can only imagine what you are going through at this time. I have no input regarding your question, but want you to know that I am praying for your mother for healing, and you and your family for peace and strength at this time. So much love and positive energy xx
My mom died last night …
I am terribly sorry to hear this sad news. May your mum’s soul rest in peace. My sincere condolences to you & family. In this trying time, god is with you more than ever.
lelask, I’m so sorry to read this. My condolences to you and your relatives. I think it’s a time to be even more stronger, but it is also a time to think about it how to lead with it. I’m sure God will be with you in this path. I’m sure also that here in this community you will always find support at any time.
Oh, Rena, I am crying with you. I am so sorry for you and your family. May the Lord give you strength to endure this very difficult and sad time. Please let me know if I can do anything. You are, of course, in my prayers. I wish I could hug you now and be with you.
I have quit my work to be with her and yesterday was my first day off work. She so so wanted me to stop working there. I was looking forward to be with her for whatever time she had left. I hoped for months. Last few days were beautiful, we talked a lot, read books and laughted.
I haven´t told my little Saska anything yet.
This is a very hard time for me and my family and thank you for being there for me.