happy sigh i am so grateful for you all
cokers - your first post is exactly whatâs been pulling at me too. i think that brainwashing people into believing that âgiftednessâ is primarily genetic is hogwash and that the sooner we take responsibility for our childrenâs success, the sooner weâll be surrounded by upcoming generations who arenât taking us back in evolution. whatâs the point of those who lived before us if weâre not going to pass on their lessons to those who come after us?
if we culturally acknowledge that itâs primarily environment-based (as the limited data supports), then weâll have to acknowledge that weâve been leaving MILLIONS in a disadvantaged situation and that through our own negligence, weâve exacerbated the great intellectual (and resulting economic/social) chasm thatâs growing with each generation in our nation. and then weâll have to acknowledge gasp what the implications are globally. in my perfect world, though, the sooner we figure this out, the sooner we can FIX IT! ⌠and the sooner we can fix it, the sooner we can move forward towards working together towards truly enjoying life and discovering its many mysteries/truths while respecting each personâs niche of expertise. as you may be aware, i could go on and on, but i wonât this time.
sonya - you know i agree 100% with your post re: work ethic and âgiftednessâ. i was one of those drop-outs throw arms up and a lot thanks to you iâm trying to go back and âpay my duesâ ⌠isntâ that how you put it not only that, weâre missing so much research to support that the environment is so very key ⌠again, iâll spare everyone from the rant. i just want to make sure that 1) my kids donât get stuck being âgifted slackersâ, 2) they donât get stuck alienated bc they refuse to throttle to socialize, and 3) they donât get stuck throttling because they refuse to be alienated.
and of course, like was mentioned in this post, i do get myself worked up SO VERY MUCH when i think about what iâm NOT doing with my kiddos bc iâm doing school work ⌠but ⌠some things that help calm me down are the realization that work ethic goes a long way, and that with a bit of desire and confidence, the brainâs ability to fly ahead (plasticity) stays pretty amazing for years. also, when i get frustrated that i donât have time to teach it all, i remind myself that the ability to learn extends to multiple areas. the important thing is to keep making learning fun, and to teach them to appreciate the challenges/work required
itâs funny - to this day i recall in much detail the exact moment when i learned the story about the tortoise and the hare. yes, i could make sense of it then ⌠but now itâs message has so much more impact. i think that will be a big theme in our house here soon
big hugs to all of you - thank you for sharing so much of what youâve learned with us, so that we can help teach our little ones and allow them the opportunity to discover more truths!