i have a 22 months old that is having lots of tantrums. my biggest problem is he will hit is head on the floor or wall when ever i say no you can’t do or have something. i really wish could get him to behave. my friends kids are wonderful and mine is a nighmare.
jakim,
I understand that what he is doing is try to call your attention and demostrate the he has power to get what he wants. I read that the best way to react in this situations is not to pay attention but of course take him to a place where he cannot hurt himself.
My grandson is 28 month and has just start with this tantrum (without hurting himself) but he is watching yo see our reaction. Some minutes without our attention and then i start taking or showing him something else that he likes and he forgets about it. One example is taking him out of the buthtub. Nevertheless we try to avoid this beforehand and explain carefully what we will do or prepare himo for something differente that he likes as reading Goodnight moon or playing card asoociation.
I hope this is usefull.
Jakim,
Your son is having temper tantrums because he is not clear who the boss is. He thinks that if he yells and throws himself, he will get what he wants. In order to discourage this, you need to give him exactly the opposite of what he wants. I don’t know what makes him have a tantrum, if you can be more specific, I can give you better advice. As a parent, you need to be in charge, not your child. If you don’t get a hold of this now, the bigger he gets, the worse it will be. You can still physically control him at this stage, when he gets bigger you can’t.
I read a book when I had my first child that tells you how to handle all kinds of situations. It is a short and easy read, maybe 100 pages. The book is life changing. It shows parents how to be in control without ever losing their cool. It tells parents how to get their children to obey immediately, without complaint and with a good attitude. They encourage parents to actually lower their voice if they have to repeat a command, instead of raising it. I only have 6 children because of this book. It puts you back in the driver’s seat.
My 18 months old would fight me to get her diaper changed, and wouldn’t want to get out of her highchair, and all other sorts of things to assert her will. Within 2 days, she was like a different child and I was a different parent. I read other parenting resources, but I never found answers like these.
You can view it here http://stores.intellbaby.com/-strse-46/To-Train-Up-A/Detail.bok
I wish you all the best!
We just use a time out when our kids get out of control. Experts recommend 1 minute per year; so at 22 months, he should get 1 minute and 50 seconds.
thanks a lot guys. really appreciated the advices.
“To Train up a Child”. Is this a religious book? The front cover on Amazon looks like it’s Armish is that right?
I don’t have problems with tantrums yet but this is what I’m planning to do once it starts. I will try to avoid them by setting limits that make sense to my child, to many limits and tantrums go on and on all day long. When he has a tantrum I’ll try to think what may be the cause: is he hungry? tired? if so I’ll try to meet his need. If the tantrum is clearly caused by his wants not his needs I’ll wait for it to finish and explain to him why he couldn’t play with the knife, for example or why he can’t throw blocks.
Good luck jakim 
Jillpea,
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