Eleven Reasons To Home School Your Children

Eleven Reasons To Home School Your Children

Raising Your Own Children is Fun and Fulfilling.Widespread institutionalization of children has damaged children, families and the motherland. You can reclaim your children & family, as well as your culture and family lineage.

Eleven Reasons

To Raise Your Own Child by refraining from institutionalizing your child and choosing instead :“homeschooling,”

“Un-schooling,” or non-schooling your precious child

  1. Let Your Child Obtain Superior and Genuine Learning

Public Institutionalization of your child does not improve your child’s ability to learn. Instead, it impairs the ability to learn. Keeping your child with you will normally result in superior intelligence and superior education, especially if you connect yourself to rich culture.

  1. Let Your Child Obtain High Values

The institutionalization of your child will not bring high spiritual or moral values to your child. Instead, it creates in your child an alienation from such values.

  1. Let Your Child Develop High Character

Qualities of character are of greater value than intellectual or technical knowledge. Institutionalization stresses intellectual and technical knowledge, while introducing negative qualities of character.

  1. Let Your Child Be a Child

Institutionalization of your child robs him or her of the child’s view and sensitivities at an early age.

  1. Let Your Child Develop Genuine Maturity

The typical home schooled child exhibits a striking savviness and functionality in dealing with the real world, ALONG WITH the retention of attractive childlike qualities of innocence, spontaneity and trust. These latter qualities soon are wiped out of the institutionalized child, while the qualities of maturity, competence, and “can-do” ability are generally undeveloped. These qualities don’t get a chance to emerge until the child is finally liberated from institutionalization, late in life, when the child gets a late start in building a real life.

  1. Preserve and Develop Your Culture and Pass It On To Your Child It is your cultural right to decide what is important for your child to know.

By institutionalizing your child, you surrender this right and allow others to choose what your child will know and believe. You give up cultural transmission and disturb your family lineage.

  1. Let Your Child Learn Genuine Socialization Instead Of False and Negative Socialization & Negative Coping Behaviors

Keeping your child with you and your tribe will normally result in a superior quality of socialization and comfort in-groups, along with personal integrity. Institutionalization of your child will often result in a damaged capacity for meaningful social connection, or negative patterns of socialization which are really just coping skills. Also institutionalization normally results in damaged personal integrity for the child.

Non institutionalized children normally exhibit:

* Better spirit of fair play
* More inclusiveness and less cliqueishness
* More sensitivity to others
* Far greater ability to mix and speak with people of all ages, rather than having phobias of different-aged people
* Greater ease in talking to adults and a natural interest in adult conversations
* Greater cooperativeness in the family, tribe, or other groups
* A much greater comprehension of the "big picture" as it pertains to their social group and other groups
* greater awareness of issues and problems in the real world; less insularity and more inclination to social activism; attunement to the "news" in the real world
* Homeschooling girls normally have far greater "mother-consciousness’ and tendency to appreciate infants and small children
* Homeschooling kids develop far fewer negative "coping behaviors" such as sarcastic talk, name-calling, persecution of others, obsession with clothes and appearance, "in" thinking, flirtation and manipulation
* Institutionalized kids seldom keep a friend long; lose their relationship with their teacher each year, and often do not feel close even to the people they call friends. Rarely does a friendship last through the years of public schooling and beyond.

But non-schooled children normally have a few genuinely close friends who they retain for many years and often for life. They develop friendships that are deep and lasting. This is the real oven of socialization—the human relationship. John Holt, home school advocate, stated that it is more valuable for a child to have a few real and intimate friends than to be loosely associated with a crowd of people who are never really close. The fact is public schools actually eliminate real bonding and genuine relationships among children, and replace these with only one fruitless relationship: That of the child to the state/authority system. Socialization is meaningless without nature’s basic system and unit of socialization—the family. By raising your own children this unit is strengthened and revivified, thus the child inherits the true structures that comprise socialization itself, instead of membership in a vast peonage owing it’s life to state entities. Family, clan and tribe is the better landscape of social life.

  1. Let Your Child Have a Real Family

The family itself has declined through the widespread institutionalization of children over several decades. If you yourself don’t have a family because you give your kids to the State—How will your child ever know how to create a family?

  1. Let Your Child Have You

You can’t raise your child nights and weekends. Your child incarnated with you because they wanted to be raised by you and have YOUR teachings. It is a sacred obligation to give your child all that you have. Most of what you have to pass on to your child can only be passed on through much physical proximity to you daily, through the daily events of life. One of the most important ways a child gets your spirit and values is by actually breathing your breath. They can’t get that if you send them off to breathe the breath of some stranger.

  1. Refrain From Abandoning Your Child

In the plaintive song “End of The Summer” Dar Williams sings this line condemning parents who thoughtlessly send their children to a foreign place of which the parents have little knowledge:

“It’s the end of the summer— when you send your children to the moon.”

  1. Maintain Your “Right To Assembly”

As an American or any other nationality The family is the most fundamental unit of “assembly” that exists. Without that fundamental unit of human assemblage, there would ultimately be no other assemblies. Your role with your child is not merely that of a room-and meal provider, while others take the choice role of instilling values and knowledge. Never underestimate that you are your child’s primary teacher, and this is a sacred relationship. You have both the right and obligation to raise your own child, in the way that you believe is best for your child, and to pass on your unique intellectual, moral, and spiritual heritage as well as that of your ancestors—all of whom watch over and care about your child also. Diversity of culture—genuine human culture vs. artificial and state-created—will be reborn when parents take their children back. The world will then become a green garden again, because true wisdom flourishes WHERE ELDERS PASS ON THEIR WISDOM for three consecutive generations or more.

Cultural Freedom & The Fundamental Human Freedoms

Sound like enough homeschooling reasons? Well, there are more. To get the right view of homeschooling, realize that it’s really about raising your own children. You have always had this right and duty, but have been gradually led to believe, by super political forces, that this was not your right. Also, economic forces were applied to you to make it seem difficult. You were made into a wage-slave, then both you and your spouse were forced to work for survival, etc. But back up, and start from a simple premise of yourself as a free person.

There is the story told by many Native American tribes of the 1800’s:

“The white man came and took all of our children and forced them into their schools. When the children came back, they were ruined. They were then useless. They could do nothing. They knew nothing.” We look at that story today from a modern liberal perspective and know that it was wrong to take those children from their parents. The Native American parents had the right to keep their children, to pass on their culture, and to be the arbiters of what their children should learn. And yet strangely, most white Americans today no longer assign to themselves these basic rights. Families that do homeschooling, unschooling, or nonschooling are already in large measure reclaiming these basic rights, which have been eroded by the state.

DEFINITIONS:

Homeschooling, homeschoolers

First parents realized they could do the same things teachers did in public schools, and often much better. They began to reclaim their children and families and it was called “homeschooling.” There was the idea of trying to duplicate, as much as possible, what public schools were doing it, but doing it at home. At the extreme end, parents tried to turn their homes into schools. There was lots of pressure at that stage and worry: “Am I duplicating school well enough?” There was still the programming that state employees were the authorities in their children’s education. State school officials, threatened by a movement that could jeopardize their jobs, resisted the movement both overtly and clandestinely. (One of the main tactics was the “official homeschooling” program run by the school, which was not true homeschooling, but a deeper invasion of the state into the family grounds.)

Unschooling, unschoolers

Then two things started happening with some families: First, they noticed that many of their children actually learned better and became more educated through leaving them alone and just supporting them in following their interests. (The same way an adult best learns!) Given the emotional security that comes with constant proximity to your parent, and a modicum of the world’s natural stimulation, children showed themselves as prodigous and constant learners when allowed to “follow their bliss.” They were even learning to read with just a handful of informal lessons; kids were following passions that led to all kinds of integrated, meaningful knowledge. Kids were finding their bliss and their passions at early ages. This was a miraculous realization and showed the full tragedy of the forced-learning experiment of public school.

The quicker parents, they realized that this was the superior way to education in the first place, and that children are insatiable and prodigious learners if left alone to pursue interests, with even spontaneous formal instruction when hungry for it. They began questioning the basic premise of a “school” as necessary to learning—or whether it is even helpful. These ones adopted the term “unschooling.” By using the term “unschooling,” the parents are saying:

“We don’t buy the idea that schools are necessary to true education, and we have no need of turning our family into a school.” Later, as parents regained the power they once gave up to the state, they remembered that it was entirely their cultural and spiritual right to decide what was most important for their children to know. They realized that this had been their unalienable right all along. Instead of “homeschooling,” the movement became known as “full parenting,” or “raising your own children.” A mother decided one day that it was more important for her daughter to know how to grow every kind of yam that month than to learn another software program or another tampered history. Another day a father interested his son in the stars through a telescope, Another taught his daughter the ancient mysteries of his astrology profession. Children became versatile and skilled in a hundred meaningful things, became virtuous people, and mature for their age, yet more childlike and appealing, than their institutionalized cousins. They received the intellectual, emotional and spiritual baton that they came here to receive from their parents. Neighborhoods began to be neighborhoods again. Families began to be families again. Fathers began to teach their sons again. Mothers began to mother again. People began to be around in their homes during the day. Relatives began to visit and tell stories that were meaningful and never forgotten. Villages began to return that were more fascinating than anything on a CD-Rom disk, and safer and more stimulating than the parking-lots and corridors of any state institution.

Eventually, the welfare state and a cop on every corner were no longer necessary. The United Nations dissolved into a planet of peaceful tribes. People became human again while cities became green and filled with walking folks. Children played among them in safety throughout town and village, around the green, and by the sea.

Thank you for this, Kyles Mom - did you write it?

I also have to thank you for your tagline, which I saw last week on another post. I immediately wrote it on a piece of paper and stuck on my carrot wall. I’m so sleep deprived and stretched in other ways that my patience has been thin lately. The last few days I’ve been very conscious of Marina as stranger and it has helped tremendously.

Whether you meant it the way I took it or not, thanks,

Laura

THanks for such a detail article.
I have been thinking of home schooling him for some time now. He is just 3 now and goes to a school that offers early start kind of a program. I am planning not to send hi for summer camps in school this year and work out home school model. Let’s see how it works out

There are other methods to homeschooling besides unschooling, but it is worth investing your time into. :slight_smile:
teach your own!

I never wanted to homeschool, but when I started looking into preschools, even the very good private ones I was disappointed. I guess I’m homeschooling in a way now, nothing organized, and I’m considering keeping him with me for several more years. There are so many great programs at our aquarium and zoo and other local places that I think I could do more for him at home. I would hate to see him bored since he will be so far ahead of the others.

I wanted to homeschool my children but my now ex-husband said “no”. I can honestly say that even though I sent my kids to a christian school there are things I’m not impressed with. Such as, my two girls, 12 and 13, are NOT best friends, They are in different grades and dont understand that they should be each other’s best friend. They have their own friends, and sometimes that can be blurred, with friends playing them off against each other. Like my 12 year old’s best friend spending time with the 13 year old and telling the 12 year old she liked the 13 year old better. Or that the other one was prettier. Trying to cause jealousy between siblings.

Its also difficult arranging access around schooltimes, with their father living 4 hours away. If I was homeschooling I could be more flexible and they could see him more. Now they sometimes have to miss school. And often they dont want to see their dad, because their school friends are having a sleepover that weekend, or going to the movies or roller-rink, or a birthday party. Or they just dont want to go because they’re dad doesnt have the internet on, and they want to msn chat with their friends.

School introduces the dreaded msn, club penguin, and social networking sites. They just keep adding to the number of people they chat to. I like that homeschooling limits their friendship circle and keeps them family focused.

And the opposite sex. I plan to homeschool the younger ones, and I look forward to avoiding the interest in the opposite sex. My 13 year old isn’t interested in boys, the 12 year old is… and has broken up with boyfriend number 3. I’m not happy about this boyfriend situation, but if I try to put my opinions across, she becomes more secretive and it goes underground, with me trying to snoop her chat records and text messages to figure out what and who is going on in her life. And she tries to erase that info to keep me in the dark. She hasn’t done even hand-holding with boys, but it’s her circle of friends… they have boyfriends, dump them, get dumped by them, then swap and get jealous of each other.

No thanks. School school is a nightmare, and public schools are worse… smoking, drugs, sex, yada yada… no thanks!!

Yes, that’s true. There are so many great programs when we look around.

Reading your reply really scared me Nikita. My son is 3 and at this age I totally watch his playdates and can see who and how things affect him and then can talk him thru with what’s right/ wrong choice. YOur post here tells other things affecting home schooling decision. Karma for u.

No I did not, its from a website where I first got the idea of home schooling.

And whats a tagline :unsure:
Also I quiet dont get the marina as stranger part…uh oh, my comprehension is weakening???

that’s your quote under the picture
“Trying to bring up Kyle as a stranger!”

nhockaday, this is way better than we thought!!!
I think I like this too, this new idea!
actually its a bit more than that!

you got me interested too, :slight_smile:
would you explain what was the original meaning?

lol
ok, first is I am a Muslim and we follow the prophet muhammad’s (peace be upon him) sayings out of which is
“Islaam began as something strange and it will revert to how it began as something strange. So glad tidings of Paradise to the strangers”
and then my granma, when i was like 5 or 6 yrs old i remember he telling me not to do what other people do, i mean like not to copy other people, whereby i decided to be different…so thus i was a stranger, unique person where ever i went, and unlike other felt comfortable with it too,n always thanked for it…so want Kyle to be one in both these aspects too!!!
wierd i know…but being different makes me feel good…

Hi KylesMom,

I think what makes you feel good is not so much that you are different but that you are an independent person and you have enough self-confidence to be so.

Good for you!

Lucy

So two quite different ideas of child as a stranger - isn’t language a wonderful thing?!

There are a lot of reasons to Homeschool. I am Homeschooling our oldest boy George who is in Kindergarten and we both love it. Learning should be fun but unfortunately school often takes the love of learning away from kids.

I try to encorporate play, games and fun into every school day. When I am excited about what we are learning it is hard for him not to be.

It’s not all fun and games though. There are times that he doesn’t want to do whatever activity I have chosen. But that’s okay because an important life lesson is learning to do things because we need to not because we necessarily want to.

Kids are very impressionable, they do not have the discernment that comes with age. I want to be the one that chooses what is being impressed on him.

There is a lot of joy and satisfaction that comes from teaching your child, not to mention knowledge - yes even in kindergarten!

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Personally, my main reason for wanting to homeschool is the same as my reason for doing early education: I want my boy to have the level of knowledge and understanding I feel I could have had, but never achieved in my (reputedly excellent) public schools. And now that we have started an “early education,” of sorts – of course, he’s still doing self-guided play for most of the day – it’s even harder to imagine putting him in school, let alone public school. I just can’t imagine what it would be like for a very early reader, who was at the first grade level or above at age 2, and who was otherwise made familiar with the entire grades K-2 curriculum before age 5, to go into an ordinary Kindergarten.

If there were a really great school nearby, especially a free one, one that would let our boy progress at exactly his own rate, without either having to wait for others or being pressured to catch up, we might use it. But I pack a lot into “really great school” and I doubt we’d be able to find any school that could do the job properly.

It’s not just teaching enough or teaching in an individualized way, my concern is that it’s a crapshoot. You don’t know what teacher the kid is going to get, no idea if the person is going to understand your kid’s needs, etc. If you do it yourselves, you know your child is getting educated by someone who loves and understands him better than anyone.

Then, of course, there’s the whole matter of bad socialization, as Nikita illustrated. People wonder about how homeschooled kids are socialized. Very well, studies now show. Actually, what I think people are realizing more and more – the homeschooling literature is full of this argument, and I haven’t come across any interesting reply to it – is that the “secondary lessons” of regular school, learned from institutional schooling and from being thrown in with a lot of immature kids exactly your own age, are very bad, at least in our present culture. Maybe in the past, when the larger society subscribed to various healthy values, you didn’t have to be worried about the bad influence that school itself had on the character of children. (Personally, if it were 1900, I’d still want to homeschool because I wouldn’t like all the values of the surrounding community–but that’s just me.) But today, we definitely do have to worry about school as a bad influence. This isn’t because of school per se, it is because school brings together people from, and greatly reflects the values, of a society that is ailing in many ways.

For me, this has nothing whatsoever to do with religion (in fact, I’m agnostic). It has to do with character, which are relatable but also distinguishable things. I want my child to be a responsible, hard-working, kind, honest, etc., person, and I think that putting him in school risks surrounding him with a lot of bad influences. I don’t mean only, or even mainly, drugs and sex, etc. I’m actually more concerned about deeper, more insidious influences, like pressure to conform, to turn off your mind, to think in prejudices (not just about race, etc., but about everything), to be “cool,” etc. These are childish vices that you have to overcome, and which many people sadly never seem to overcome entirely, but which you won’t learn from your parents at home (or, at least, that my boy won’t learn from his parents, I hope).

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Nice soapbox DadDude!

I’m very interested to hear what sort of approach you plan to take with the kid’s education. Once you’ve exhausted LR and LM, of course…

What a wonderful post. I appreciate your insight and thoughts. I was wondering if anyone had some thoughts about curriculum for a 2 year old? While I believe that self-guided play is important at this point, I’d love to have some guidance on interesting topics along with books/activities to support to teach my son.

Thank you all!
Susan

I’ve got lots of ideas about curriculum and even have a system worked out…sort of…but no time to explain. It’s rather complicated and probably not suitable for anyone else besides us. But the general idea is that you identify all the subjects you want to “teach,” and you make sure you regularly find something appealing to your tot in each of those subjects. This could be a new presentation, or a book, or (in our case occasionally) a video, or some sort of “hands-on” learning. For example, our boy just hates Doman math–he’s probably too old for it now anyway. But he loves playing with and counting dice. So we have 10 each of 6-sided and 12-sided dice (found the latter at a teachers’ supply store, Holcombe’s KnowPlace). He also “sorts” and counts buttons, beads, etc. And of course you’ve seen the math presentations I’ve made…well, he liked those at first, but now not so much. It’s a little disappointing to me, I admit, but I just move on and find some other way to interest him in the material.