Hi, could anyone has hyperactive kids share their method of how to teach their kid to listen and obey to the teachers in preschool? Is 3 years old still to early to be judged as hyperactive. Should i bring my child for special therapy? My child just started his preschool about one week ago and the teacher started to complaint that he had created lot of trouble to them and they suggested for a shadow teacher. My child was not really exposed before he turned 3, he is not as socialble as the same age kids. He never seperated from my family for 3 hours a day. I’m a little disappointed with the teachers because they never give chance to my child to understand him more. They started to neglect him and show disgusted with him. That is so unfair to my child. Their complaint really hurt me and my family. My kid has very strong academic background and he is very clever. He just need more attention and need guidance. They seems like classified my kid as abnormal.
Get him out of there! If you already have such strong feeling about the situation then find another place for your son. You could try a setting with a lower child to teacher ratio. Home care. Or take him places like playgroup, story time, even the park so you can see for yourself how he reacts/ interacts with other children. Make up your own mind then you will be confident in your decisions and will know what to request from the kindy. I do think 3 is too young to lable a kid but don’t ignore this warninng you have been given, you son needs " something" he is not getting from the kindy, your job is to find out what it is… Not always easy but mums almost always know best.
Completely agree! Get him out as soon as possible. That young, especially if he is very clever, their outrageous attitudes could give him very negative feelings about school and learning. And after only a week, any ‘professional’ with that attitude should be nowhere near children, especially yours ! Or mine:)!
It may be he just needs a bit more exposure to other activities, or maybe his behavior is intuitive because he he has heard or seen someone there react badly to him. You know your child. Trust him, and your instincts.
Some places have a way for parents to view the child whilst he is there without him knowing…this may be a way for you to observe him, although of course, the teachers are sure to be on their best behavior.
I don’t know if people on this forum are aware as many of you are not in the US, but a very tragic case was just in the news. A young girl, in this case a mentally disabled girl, was being seriously bullied by her teachers! Called trouble maker, fat, stupid, lazy, you name it. The parents could not figure out why she was acting out, met with administrators many times and were told that their child was a trouble maker, should not be allowed to attend regular classes, all kinds of things. The father finally rigged his daughter up with an audiotape and got hours of heartbreaking recordings…
Sorry for the long rant, but the point is that we know our children best and of something doesn’t feel right, stick to your guns! Even if you discover an issue that needs to be dealt with (and three is far too young to be making assumptions anyway), it sounds like they are not going to be helpful in working with you on it.
Good luck…
LIttleJustin,
“Hyperactive”, what does that mean anyway? You have a 3 year old boy on your hands. Of course he is hyperactive. Maybe he is a permanently hyper child that roams from thing to thing. So what? You posted as if this is a bad thing. He is a boy, that is what they are.
School settings are designed to get children to sit still and behave so a group of children can be taught. I don’t know if you’ve ever taught a bunch of 3 year olds but it is truly a nightmare to get them to behave. So the preschool, which is institutional teaching, needs to have children who will sit calmly. Your child doesn’t fit into that mold. Personally, I’d take that as a compliment. If he is bright, he is probably bored to tears, what do you want from him?
So yes, pull him out. But don’t send him to another institutional setting. Keep him home and teach him or find something a lot smaller, and more advanced, so he is challenged.
I run a very small daycare. I have 2 children plus one of my own. The oldest child I have will be labeled hyperactive when he goes to school - that is too bad. He is an attention hog. He was kicked out of 2 larger daycares because he was hyper and didn’t fit in with the other kids. So, mom brings him to me. We love him. He is bright, funny, loves to learn. He misbehaves, but he is a boy and he acts like one. That is not a “medical condition” - that is a blessing. We find him delightful. He is big for his age. He is the size of a 6-7 year old but he only turned 4 a month ago so people will always have higher expectations of him. He is adding & subtracting, reading at about a 1st to early 2nd grade level, taking Spanish with Rosetta Stone, and Piano with Soft Mozart. He fits in fantastically with my 17 month old and the 3 y/o with Down Syndrome we have. So he is hyper - he is just a boy, a very bright boy. Here he is working with me learning music:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GyI3y7fbYWM
Count your blessings and move on.
Sonya
I’m so glad with all these responsed. I feel all better. Its really hard to find a special school for hyperactive kids. Especially small groups. How i wish i’m in US. I will be searching for new school for him and planning to take him everywhere for exposure. Thanks a lot and if anyone has great ideas for managing hyperactive kids, please do share with me,
If your child is already going to school continue to give him a positive learning environment even at home because it will prepare him for the challenges he may encounter in the future with regards to school and in his daily life. You should also think of healthy activities like educational video viewing and play time at home. So it will be easier for him to adjust to school work better, I suggest you make things/activities organized and simple, routines, have a proper place for everything and always praise him for his process.
Good Luck mommy! 
THANKS Sonya.
You have explained well about the “Hyperactive” boy. Good Job.