To Arvi,
“Just one more question. Most of the child prodigies and accelerated learners that I’ve read about have ended up depressed and being unhappy during adulthood. There are a few exceptions to this list like your son (great indeed). One common thing about the prodigies/accelerated learners who turned out depressed is the fact that they were accelerated in a super fast pace like graduating college at the age of 12 or less. What is your opinion on this? Did you put special efforts to ensure that your son is happy and did you make conscious effort in making him well-rounded or is it because of his personality that he is happy now.”
Good questions Arvi. I guess a few things here. First, David had his church group of same-age (or at least very close-aged) kids that he grew up with literally from day 1, so that was probably the most important factor. Had we moved (for any reason) or sent him away, I suspect he would have turned out completely different (and for the worse). It’s critical for a kid in that situation to have a group like that and stay with them. Remember, David also doesn’t have siblings - and even ‘normal’ single kids tend to have a lot more problems socially - so he had both going against him. Next, like I’ve said, I beat it into him (figuratively, but pretty loud when necessary, which was very rare) that he was nothing special, he was just a kid whose parents started him early. Without that, he probably will have still been in the top half of his class, but not by much (and I’m not even sure of that). He knows it himself - he understands that intrinsically. A number of times after he’d spent hours living it up with his friends I’d ask him whether they talked about him going to college - it never comes up, he’s not about to talk about it, and to the other kids, he just went to another school - so they would never feel inferior around him.
Beyond that, we never, ever, shopped him to the media or had a blog, or anything. But keep in mind that the Internet was younger, although still very big - I just had no interest. I realize that others here have pages, and I completely understand that. You have relatives, probably out of town (especially grandparents), that just love to read and watch the postings - and that’s fine, because I also know that you guys will know be able to figure out when to back off, such as when it could make the kid susceptible to teasing. Since I haven’t done it, I don’t feel qualified to say if it’s harmful or not. But back to the media. My conservative political views don’t give me much love of the media to begin with, and I’ve heard story after story of how they mess up and ruin people. So it was easy for me to avoid them. But, in the end, we had Pam at the Community College, that really stuck her neck out to get him enrolled early - and when she wanted to put out a press release when he finished there, so that she could maybe draw more kids in like David, we were fine with it. And then you had University of Houston that had an 86 year old graduating the same day as David (who was 16 years old), and they wanted to do a story on it, and then TV stations got wind. We were good there too, as the school also did a great job and we didn’t want to let the older guy down. But all this was done just as he was finishing up both schools. So while he was in school, there were no distractions, like TV stories, that would have made him an outcast (or gotten to his head). I know lots of parents do shop their kids - I think some parents just have their own problems and are trying to solve them through their kids, but I suspect many other parents just want the kid’s name out there, so the colleges come knocking with offers. We don’t know - because we never gave them that chance (to speak of). And by the way, the media stories were fine…they weren’t out to destroy him. LOL.
A couple of other things that we did, that may have helped. First, I never used baby talk with him. When he was two months old in a basket, I would explain to him that was changing out a washer in the sink, why I was doing it, how I was doing it, and I would talk in exactly the same tone that I would talk to a co-worker in. Of course he was 2 months, but then he was 6 months, and then 12 months. When he started talking, he was talking like an adult practically from day 1. I remember one phone call to my mom when he was probably 5 years old and she said to me (after) that feels like she’s talking to an adult. Where it helps is when they’re with older kids in school - they simply sound more mature. David wasn’t actually the first one I tried it on. When I was growing up, we had a dog and I would talk to him like an adult too. Needless to say he’d cock his head over like I was a mental case, but he remembered stuff and was brilliant, for a dog - and I think that was part of it. Back then I figured it wasn’t his fault that he was a dog and I wasn’t going to treat him that way (that was my rationale). For David, I saw the results with the dog, so it was a no-brainer.