There is a high risk of genetic abnormalities if you have children after 35. It goes higher as you get older.
I was very tired during my 1st trimester and don’t know if I could have done a 9-5 at that time. But then, I’ve always had unusual work schedules/environments.
I’m a single mom, and wanted to be the one to raise my child, so I had to do some regrouping work-wise. I now focus on writing and take editing and transcribing jobs to keep me in wolf food… Things are tight financially, but I’m used to that and always manage to find a way to keep going. Not that it wouldn’t be delightful not to have worry quite so much about the financial end of things! Just wait till I sell that screenplay!
Marina’s never been a great sleeper and neither am I, so I have to sneak work in. It’s a bit easier now because she finally started taking afternoon naps about six months ago.
While it’s true that the risk of abnormalities is higher after 35, there are many other risk factors as well. I used to work with kids with special needs and every single mother was in her twenties when she conceived. Conversely, I know a number of women that got pregnant after 35 and none of them experienced genetic issues. Nothing clinical in this, I know, just my experience.
then we should speed things up before i turn 35!if we want to have 3 children then. thanks
I was 39 and know that the odds are stacked against me to do it again now Im about to turn 41
I am 28 and my son turns 3 tomorrow, I was 25 when I had him.
I am 37 (38 at the end of March). I had my first child at 20, my second child at 25, and my third child at 34. My children are 18, 12, and 3.
Hi,
I was beginning to feel like I was some sort of geriatric here 
with everyone thinking being a mum in their 30’s was old, 'til I read LongTallDrink’s post. At last, someone who had their daughter at the same age (almost exactly) as me! Iona was born when I was 41 1/2, and she’s 10 months old now. We’re still hoping to give her a brother or sister, 'though we understand it might not happen now, but having had older parents myself (Mum was 40 1/2 when she had me) I know how important siblings are when you’re still young(ish) when your parents die. It would have been nice, maybe, to be younger parents, but David and I only met when we were 37.
Anyway, like someone said, I think I’ve got more patience now than I would have had when I was younger. I’m also happy to have given up work now, too, as I’ve been working in the field for 17 years, so I don’t feel like I’m missing out as I might have done if I’d been younger. Overall, I’m really enjoying being an older mum.
Married at 26. Had my son at 27, one month away from turning 28. My son just turned 9 months old a couple days ago. I think you can still have another child. Yes, like the others said there are ricks involved. A sibling would be great. Good Luck! :nowink:
Hi all,
I am 29 now and my son is 2 now…!!! Not really looking forward to have a second one, since I am planning to get back to work when he starts school.
Well I’m 39 now and 26 weeks pregnant with number 5. Had a bloodtest, and ultrasound (nuchal translucency test) for Down’s syndrome, and Edward’s syndrome, and they say I’m low risk of age related abnormalities. My partner is alot younger than me, and I think that’s why babies seem to be so healthy. Apparently older dad’s have been found to produce lower IQ babies, but apart from genetic abnormalites, older mother’s dont produce lower IQ babies themselves, just when partnered with older fathers. Which could explain why it’s hardest for 2 older people to conceive together. It’s nature’s way of keeping the population healthy. Sad though for those couples.
I’d not heard that, but I had heard that older fathers had an increased risk of a child with autism as a latest theory. My husband’s just a few months younger than me, but so far Iona seems fine.
i dont now even how to start hello to everyone
am i the only one here having the baby at 19 i am 25 and with 3 kids :huh: and i do want to have more but maybe in a cople of years just need to get some time off lol and dont worry about the age i think its perfectly normal to have baby at your time
when i had first everyone was against me i just finished school got married and yes got pregnant we pland this and we are thery happy 8) but it really hearts when someone says bad things to me i am trying not to take it in but it not allways easy,
one good thing to be older mum no one can say to you that you are to young and not ready :happy:
happynes and love to every one here and dont worry to much it not healthy lol lol 
Hello Everyone!
I’m 31 and I had my daughter when I was 30. She is 3 and a half months old. Honestly I never thought I was going to enjoy mothehood so much. I guess God knew better. We definetly want to have a second child and we would like to have them close in age. My brother and I are 7 years apart and it was a dissaster! Growig up we never got along because we were in different stages of our lives. Now, he is 23 and we have a great relationship, but it took about 20 yrs to get there. I have to say because of him I can’t see my daughter without a sibling.
Regarding moms that had their kids when they were young, I say you go girls! My mom had me when she was 16 (needless to say it was not a planned pregnancy) I know it was hard on her and I appreaciate all the sacrifices she made to raise me well. I know it is not the ideal situation, but it has her positive sides like having a great relationship. I love my mom still young and has a full life ahead of her. I guess she will just now do somethings I did before I had my baby.
And for the ones that waited a bit longer, I say, we go girls! lol As everyting it has it positives and negatives, but all of us are trying to do what is best for our kids. That is why we are in this website right?
Cheers to all of us! :yes:
I’m 30, had my son at 25 and my daughter 10 days before I turned 30. Motherhood has been fun for me, but I think this is it though! maybe I’ll chnage my mind later!
I am 39 now and had my twins, a boy and a girl, at age 37.
1st bby at 29- last ( I think) at 33!
I’m turning 38 this coming August. I was 35 when my son was born. My wife was 24 that time.
I can’t forget when I heard him cry inside the delivery room.
Now he is already 2y/o and still have no plans of having another baby yet.
I am 30, had my baby when I was about 28.5,We waited as both of us wanted to accomplish certain academic goals before marriage and career goals before the baby. This is probably our only child unless God has other plans.
27 now, 25 when my daughter was born. I think we’ll have another, but it’s so hard to imagine sharing my love and attention with a second child (or more!)!
Hi everyone, my daughter was born 19 days after my 20th birthday. And my 21st is tomorrow
I know I might be young but my daughter was planned and is well loved by all. (Hubbie and I want a large family so thought we better start early)
And well done to everyone on here for giving your child the best start to life. :yes: